Letting go, really hurts (Smothy 9)

[Pyrite]

Hey Why,

Cool name.

This was just an intermediate post, the real goss is on my thread, or see Zeus, or Vanilla, or much wiser people than I.

I will look you up now, but you know what - the short answer is the same as the answer you have heard all along. YOU!!! You have no control over anyone else, you never did. Without even knowing your sitch I can say with certainty that ALL of this will proceed with less pain, more grace and dignity if you my friend focus on YOU.

Personally, I am [censored] up man. Saw an IC yesterday re:parenting young kids. No real problem but d4 is very reserved and IC's are my life now. Better to be informed than not you know. Anyway, IC gave ME sheet to look at for consideration. the modern father. Self -> partner-provider-parent. The point being that SELF is actually very important, no brainer. I denied it for years, but look where I am