Stacey, first, congrats on being fit, meeting new people, and loving your life!
Sorry your H and his L are causing you so much grief, I think not accepting a mid-point valuation is totally unreasonable. I don't really have any advice on that part, except to look at the difference between the mid-point and what H is proposing and consider it within a bigger picture. Is it a lot of money? If you end up staying in the house another 20 years is it significant? I don't know the answer, but consider if there's any room for compromise within you. No, you shouldn't have to, but then again, if the money is relatively small, it might be worth your peace of mind to have it all over.
And on this part:
Originally Posted By: stacey9
Sunny - I have been reading your recent posts with interest. Your H seems to realise none of this was what you wanted so he is prepared to pay the legal costs. I think that is the very least my H could do, but he really does not think he's done anything wrong at all - he wasn't happy and now he is, end of story.
Yes, STBX is paying for it all, and I'm pleased with how it's being handled, but truth is, it's being paid out of joint funds, we haven't split anything yet. So it's just reducing the pot that's going to get split. It's really not any different than splitting the assets and then us each paying our own Ls. My household expenses have been coming out of that pot, but so have his apartment expenses. So be it, that was a small price to pay for the possibility that we might be able to work this out. And as it turns out, it was a small price to pay for being able to keep peace between us. The way I look at it, my grandchildren are worth a few thousand.
Finally, be careful of believing that your H's life is perfect. It may be, it may not be. You don't know what he's thinking. RD reminds me of this occasionally and he's right. H may be miserable in his clutter-free teenager-free apartment, you don't know. And you wouldn't be happy in a clutter-free teenager-free home. So enjoy your kids and let him be.
