have i been making mistakes too long part 4

[tkdmme]

Guys, Here is are some of the 180s im doing:

helping with housework
helping more with the kids
getting out more
exercising (mostly golf)
doing the laundry
stopped the R talks with the W
Acting as if
detaching
got a second job playing piano
stopped drinking as much (I know I need to stop completely)
building a better relationship with my father and brother
taking the kids to church
hanging out with the kids more
stopped being a recluse (before BD it was impossible for my friends to get me out of the house)
stopped being so negative

These are just some things that came to mind. Any thoughts? are these actually 180s or am I fooling myself. These are things that I didn't do before BD. I just kind of feel selfish for becoming detached. I know I have a lot of work to do on myself and I am feeling stronger everyday. There are some things that will be harder to do such as completely stop drinking. I may need some pro help with that one.

Any of you ever feel selfish for detaching and GAL? I was selfish before BD and it feels like more of the same to GAL.