Still Struggling with a plan!

[hopeOK]

Day 4 of back to normal & I think things are going pretty well. I was feeling a little panicky yesterday ... not sure anything really triggered it but I started to worry about him & her. But it didn't get out of control... I refocused & got back to keeping busy. Then yesterday late afternoon it was getting to be a bit later than the time H normally gets off work (he has no set off time w/ this job... which is an issue for me now as I see how it enabled him to spend a lot of time w/ the OW w/o me realizing he wasn't at work... w/ his last job it was a set schedule & he was home at the same time every day.) & I started to get upset & I thought about asking him to start texting me or calling me when he was caught up at work later than normal. But then about 10 minutes later he called to say he was coming home & I was ok. He explained about work being crazy busy & some various things he was dealing with so I didn't say anything about texting/calling.

I think part of me worries that if I don't say anything, things will get out of control (for me) when he is later than normal. But then I also worry that if I say something that I'll be stirring up all the bad emotions & it'll throw us off track of our current progress.

So trying to figure out where the balance is of asking for things but also moving on. I know I have to work on trusting him & should not get worried until he does something concretely untrustworthy. But I also would feel better with certain assurances.