Yes, fake it until you make it and keep working on you. If your H just moved in with OW, then things are going to get a bit more real. Having an distance A versus living together are two very different things. My guess is that the fantasy has a better chance to start wearing off now. Maybe he will see the grass in not greener with OW.
In the meantime, work on you and make yourself in to the Becky 2.0 that only a fool would leave. For all intensive purposes, I just kicked my H out and exposed to him that I knew who the OW is. He had been lying and living in his fantasy for at least 4 months. I think he has likely been staying with her and A is no longer secret. They also do not know if I will tell employer. My hope is that this puts pressure on them both and starts making A seem not so much the fantasy dreamland it was. So, now I am really focusing on me. Maybe it implodes and he sees the light, maybe not. Either way I win by becoming BT 2.0.
Last edited by BT13; 08/21/1501:25 PM.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
