Sigh. I'm still caught in the seemingly (to me only?) contradictory signals of WW. On the one hand, she's asking about the D procedures, because the ball is in my court. And yes, I'm slow. Not really on purpose, not because I'm trying to drag things down, but simply because it is highly unpleasant and I tend to procrastinate.
On the other hand, she texts and emails me "funny stuff", like yesterday was a proof-reading of a letter from D7's camp (it was full of mistakes). Today, it's a few chosen quotes from her clients. I just don't know what to make of it or even how to react. Yesterday, I did reply and today, I can't decide. I don't even know where it leads. Normalizing the separation? For the record, she always tried to be friendly to me and I've always kept my distance. I can't say that it hurts much anymore, but it does distract me.
Hey Mozza - I will indulge in mind reading and say , yes, indeed, she is trying to normalize the situation. And that's not really anything new, right? I recall in one of your early posts she told you that you didn't have to be "robots" with each other. I think it's pretty common (and natural) for the WAS to try an reinforce the story that this is all just normal everyday stuff.
Of all the aspects of DB, I have always found the advice to behave like a "friendly neighbor" the most difficult. I am terrible at it. I don't ooze anger or anything and am very polite with STBX, but there is no small talk (on either side). I've tried to be better about it and it feels so forced and unnatural that I have to believe it comes across as completely inauthentic.
So- this is advice to do what I find so difficult. Keep trying. Particularly if it is about stuff to do with the kids. At the end of the day, regardless of what happens - it probably helps build a positive connection between you two - and that can't be a bad thing.
