So, in May when H moved out, he was like a kid in the candy store. He started talking to a couple of women from the area on a dating website. He met up with at least two women. He took one on a double date with our couple friends. I was really hurt by this. I will admit at that time I was breaking all of the LRT rules. I was on a roller coaster ride that was spiraling out of control.
He was going out a lot with his friends to bars and getting drunk. He ended up with a DUI.
After that, he has had a wake up call. He isn't going out to bars as much or dating on the dating sites (so he says). I feel like his actions still aren't lining up with his words.
He is still sure that he doesn't want to reconcile. We had a talk last week about whether to sell our house and that I want to move back where my family is. He said he wasn't ready for this conversation. Since then, I was giving him his space.
It was my weekend with the girls. We went school shopping. We had a fun time. He did call in the afternoon to ask how we were doing. So, we talked for a min. then I said I had to go.
I was taking the kids to his parent's house to go swimming. I called and ask if he wanted to watch the girls swim. He actually came (in the beginning of summer I got a no).
We didn't have any communication on Sunday. On Monday, I had to bring the girls over to his house (works from home and watches kids in summer). He had a smoothie for me to have for breakfast. When I went to drop off things for girls, we talked about their day and his DUI situation. Then, he called me at 8pm, and we talked about his issues with DUI again, the girls, and randomness. He telling me about the books he is reading on happiness. Recommends that I read it.
On Tuesday, he emails me at work because he is buying something online and wants to know if I want one. He text me later to ask about a heath issue I have and if it is doing better. I didn't respond (didn't know I had the text), and he called saying I didn't respond to his text. Then he invited me to his parents house to watch the girls swim. I went for a bit, but then left because I had plans.
On Wednesday, he called me at work to see if I wanted to meet him and the girls for lunch. I met them, and he complimented me about my shirt. H and I had a good time discussing top news, politics, and random topics not about us. When I picked up the girls, I invited him to the house to have dinner with us. He said he would stop by. The girls already ate, so we ended up eating dinner together. We again had a good conversation about books he is ready for his happiness and business ideas.
On Thursday, he came over in the morning because he washes his clothes here, and then the girls can sleep late. He brought me another smoothie. He then called me at work to ask my opinion on his DUI issue.
I feel the above are positives, but still second guessing myself, and then I explain it away that he doesn't want to spend time with me and this is just happenstance.
Thoughts?
M10 D8 D5 Ask for D April 26 MO May 12 Filed Jul 1 2015 Love, Hope, and Faith
