D12 was with W today. I get a text from W saying that D12 will have her phone today. I called D12 this morning and discovered that W had put D12 on a bus (public transit type) to get her to school. Sent her by herself because she can't afford the bus fare for both of them. This may be me being hyper protective of D12 (I know that I am) but this idea made me very uncomfortable.
My initial reaction was shocked and a bit of anger in my voice. I told D12 to have a nice day. Gave it some thought as I was driving to work and called her back. Decided that since I was the one who was uncomfortable with this, it is my problem. I told D12 that I would be picking her up from school and driving her back. She called W and told her this, which put W into a frenzy. I didn't know W was in a frenzy and had already decided that I wasn't going to point fingers in blame.
So D12 got out of school and I picked her up. She called OMs phone from Ws phone and started to talk to W. I asked for the phone and started talking to W. Asked W to meet me at a strip mall near her apartment complex to drop off D, was met with some spew, but she did meet me there. (I won't go to their apartment anymore and she knows this.)
Asked W to sit down a minute so we could talk, D12 put in her headphones and W became immediately defensive. Took a little while but I finally convinced her that I wasn't angry, but I was uncomfortable with D12 riding the bus alone. More defensive stuff from W, which I responded to be assuring her she didn't need to be defensive. Told since I was the person that this made uncomfortable, that I would take care of it. Be it I drive down and get D12 in the morning and take her to school on the 2 days she is with W or I would send D12 with enough bus fare so she wouldn't have to ride the bus alone.
To be fair, I can understand why W was on the defensive, old Late would have been very upset about this and would have lectured and or yelled at W as a result. Perhaps a 180 for Late? I think so. I feel good with how I handled myself, even empathized with Ws financial woes a little. (Her decision to be in this, but it does make common things difficult.)
I got off work and didn't have to deliver pizza tonight. I picked up D12 and W. Dropped D12 off at home, W and I went to a park. Hung out for a while, she talked to me about what is going on with her. I managed to keep my trap shut and gathered valuable intel. (Thanks Cali!)
Seems OM didn't get fired, he quit. No hope of any unemployment to bail him out. He hasn't been looking for work. W works fifteen hours a week. She is fed up. Can't stand his friends, can't stand his daughter and is quickly losing patience for him. Said that our S18 talked to her about getting an apartment with her. Told her I liked the idea, gives her a chance to work on her without me or OM in the picture. She agreed that she could use that, but time will tell if that is the truth or not.
W told me she doesn't want to work any longer. Wants to focus on her artwork (she is very talented). Wants to get a puppy. Wants a whole family. (I am still of the believe none of what they say mindset.) She is very jealous of my life now? Says her life is going to sh** and mine is headed up. Doesn't think it's fair. I did tell her I was willing to share what I had with her. (Pursuing methinks, I am still working out this DBing thing.)
All in all I feel like today went very well. Was able to show her a 180 with my reaction to how she handled getting D to school. Managed to keep my mouth shut for the most part. I avoided my issues with her entirely. She was warm and friendly when we parted ways (temp checking, we did part ways so she could return to OMs apartment). I even managed to not get defensive when the spew started and she apologized later. (Big thing for her, she RARELY apologizes.)
3 old men are at the doctor for a memory test. The doctor says to the first old man, "What is three times three"? "274" was his reply. The doctor says to the second man "It's your turn. What is three times three"? "Tuesday" replies the second man. The doctor says to the third man, "OK, Your turn. What's three times three"? "Nine" says the third man. "That's great" says the doctor. "How did you get that"? "Simple" says the third man. "I subtracted 274 from Tuesday".
M: 38 W: 37 T: 20 M: 19 Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12 BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out) PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM) Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015
