LBS becomes the WS. The price of peace.

[asitis]

Can't really advise you, but I can say that you just take it slowly & enjoy the experience, be open and up front, and let them decide whether they are comfortable pursuing something. Then keep checking your feelings.

I know there is a series "If the Buddha ..." and one of the titles is "If the Buddha Dated?" I have no idea if it is any good.

I think for me, there is a question of confusing an already confusing situation, especially while we are trying to negotiate a new, separate life apart. I know in my case, I just let things be for several weeks, and usually the urge passed. Better I hadn't gone that path then.

Good luck on selfless love to one person. It is not something one achieves, in my opinion. It can't if it's focused on a person. We naturally cling to and form a more exclusive attachment bond with that person. Suffering comes with that. I see Rs as just a part of life and a great form of practice in themselves, but also something not just that. Who knows? If I had it figured out, I'd not be in the current sitch, would I?