I interfered with her A. Here's what happened. Found out about an affair from November. She swore up and down it was over in December. OK. So I 180, and things are improving, however, sports start up and an old coach starts needing a lot of help b/c his wife left him. Anyway, I figured it was one or the other that was causing my wife to slide. Long story short, I drive by the old dude's house and see her car in the driveway. I call, no answer, call no answer, finally she calls back. Lies about where she was, I confront him and her. Now, since he's being evicted currently, I assume they got no where else to meet. Besides, nothing was going on. lol. So, I was cool and just said that the relationship was not appropriate. She was fine for a few days, but now she is raging. She is yelling at me for staying calm, for validating, for detaching. Glad to see grandpa at practice though. She just told me that she knows I feel better with her having a chaperon as if a week ago she wasn't alone in another man's house and then lied to me about it. I'm really being tested. My coach says to validate and smile and talk calmly. This makes her nuts. Disengage, this makes her nuts. EVERYTHING makes her nuts. If I go out, she tries to go out too. She keeps upping the ante on everything. I can't figure it out. Like what's next etc. She really does act jealous though, but I don't know if she's just looking for any justification, or projecting or what.
