Oh, the finances are tricky, PP. The company could. But our plan was the most financially prudent. The thing is, my W's biggest stressor right now is money. She wants to rent our place for the cash flow (we could afford it together, but she's moved on, you see). This particular place does not have a mortgage, and I'd just pay taxes and utilities, basically. Everything else would still cash flow, including the family home.
If the tenant stays, her rent has to go to an account that's not liquid... it's a bit complicated. And yes, my emotions are running high. She went and bought a place - half of it with a loan from the OW! - that she never consulted me about, in a terrible neighborhood. And besides, I'm sure at this point, she never really plans to live there... she's all but moved into the new house the OW just bought anyway. Two homes for her, 12 homes we own together, but nowhere for me to go as of this moment? Not unless I put my foot down...
I am not sure what I'd recommend to a friend in the same spot. I'm kind of hung up on all the times she said we'd always take care of me and never ever hurt me. Which is why I'm posting here, so all you objective friends can help me sort this out! Ugh...
Thanks, PP...
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19