I guess you have a few good points here but its tough for me to face it. I know I have to do my best to get past this and be the best me that I can for me and my kids. Its just tough.
I am going to try to get out more and do the things I like, cycling, working out, beach volleyball, church...
My point was that the M you remember is already over. Your W isn't going to come running back to be in the same marriage. What we are all trying to do is to work to forge a NEW, improved marriage. Unfortunately, that isn't likely to happen within a couple of weeks. You read the stitches that turn around and they are usually months of hard work.
With that said, the legal side of it is going to go on one way or another. But in my opinion, it isn't that important. Nothing really changes if you are divorced vs. now. If you think about it, what would really be different for your regular life? For your interactions with your W?
So, you've been in essentially no contact for 3 weeks. What have you worked on for you? What are your goals? What are your 180s? Just leaving her alone isn't enough - you need to actually change to be able to begin work towards that new M.
