Moving Through It

[25yearsmlc]

You know what?

I'm not fighting anymore. I won't drag this out, I will go into the night willingly.

There's a difference between "not fighting" and giving up. You can step aside and release her to her mission", but still Not burn bridges.

Valeska and Inshock are both are both women DBers who were in your shoes, one with a child and one without.

You may be able to find their threads and I know Valeska is still around. They were/are wise women.

I'm straight, so maybe my read on this is off. Though I have a gay daughter in a long term R, that hardly makes me an expert.

My gut says there's a bit of a difference with gay women couples, and straight. Seems to me there's a lot more emotional attraction factors, and fewer purely physical.

So maybe the stereotypical straying h, who "wants more sexual variety(!)" is not applicable. (Not saying all WAH's are only searching for that, but some are).

OTOH, your choices are similar to other LBS's. You can beg & Plead, or you can step aside, or you can "fight" it, which I do not think works OR is in alignment with DB principles.

Cadet posted a long reply by MWD on this topic, but people confuse the "tough love" approach preached by Dobson, with a much softer yet firm approach herein.
(Dobson may be right, but this is a Div Busting site, not his).


I know there is a better future for me and my kids out there. I will be patient and continue to work on acceptance, and forgiveness of all involved.


THIS^^ is Crucial to any & all long term, happy marriages.


I made plenty of mistakes, all of which contributed to the demise of my marriage but hopefully, I can learn from this experience and grow stronger as a woman and human.

I will not fear this any longer. I take 100% control of me.

Let's see what I can make the next chapter of my life become. I see the future now and I can feel the sun on my skin. I am ready.

Well done!