Yeah Azz and dwh that's the angle and the message I think that falls on deaf ears.
The LBH is so focused on what he terms to be 'the goal' he can not see the forest through the tress, especially early on as its all about the WW/WAW ... what she is doing, the pain she is causing, the mistakes she is making, the lives she is ruining, the OM she is with ... its all Marsha Marsha Marsha
I think of it this way, if Micheal Jordan was told how great he was going to be and he believed it ... do you think he would have been? I argue no way ... it was that chip on his shoulder .. infact I would be willing to wager along the line someone somewhere told him he was going to fail, was not going to be good enough and that's what drove him to strive for success, as what is so common with many people who are successful in what they do.
I think the same thing applies to an LBH, the WW/WAW tells him he is not good enough ... BD ... its up to him to change and become the man he should have been all along ... not for her, not to win her back ... but for himself.
Whatever the motivation is .. or where ever it came from ... does not matter, what matters is the work that follows.
