[b]Hey Luke. As I wrote, I wasn't there so no way to know how those "digs" felt to you. Please understand that I am in know way saying you need to succck up whatever she gives you because I am not. Nothing wrong with explaining your feelings. I do feel like you don't get her reaction to the butt pat...doesn't really matter if you do. To her it is disrespectful, ya know?
I just know that those of us who have gone through this can be sensitive to certain things and we need to look at them.
Ok, so, I am going to just throw this out there....cuz I can. . Are you thinking about that she may not respect you because you are letting her back in? Do you think maybe you aren't respecting you for that a little? Just some things to think about.
As far as the OM...you cant always pretend he didn't exist. Probably wasn't the right context in which to bring him up, though. May have been better to say she was living her life or whatever, but, it's done so you just need to move on about it.
Have you told your w that you are bothered by her rings and facebook status? Although you are still separated, but, I get what you mean. Those things, to an MLCer, are usually the last things to change. They do still have the actions of teenagers for a good while.
. Are you thinking about that she may not respect you because you are letting her back in? Do you think maybe you aren't respecting you for that a little? Just some things to think about. 
