Seen this thread and to be honest, this guy .. yeah the same one who can't describe an event in less than 1000 words ... I struggle with what to say and how to say it.
Landed on this beach about a year ago ... a full year after BD, made a few mistakes prior to arriving and several more once I did. Thing is ... I was never slapped around for it ... sure a 2x4 here and there out of love and compassion from internet strangers who wanted the same thing I did just as bad as I did ... though it really did not effect their daily lives as it did mine.
Who does that? Helps poor suffering souls ... put themselves and what they have learned 'out there' like that? Well ... over a year of constant reading an learning I discovered its people who know the deep pain I felt and decided to use what they learned, advise others in hopes that somehow that same pain might be less for the next person.
I can tell you this ... I am forever a changed person because of this forum, the DR DB books and all the advice I was given, not only directly on my threads .... but what I learned reading others, vets and newbies alike I acquired such a different perspective and vast amount of knowledge out of all this. I can never say Thank you .. nor give back... enough.
If you are new .. and you are reading along searching for those slivers of hope, my advice is its not always where you think it might be nor in the form you expected and definitely not on the timeline you hope for. Personally I was separated almost 2 years ... yes 2 years .. 20 months and 10 days to be precise .... my W was 'done' we were 'oil and water' you name it I heard it, the vets here have heard it ... but they also know what to listen to, what to look for and helped me find MY way and figure myself out. Currently ... W and I have been under the same roof almost 3 months and slowly rebuilding our M
My complete heart felt thanks goes out to everyone here
