I think that this all goes back to the same thing...our spouses must learn to trust our 'new selves'. I don't know about a timeline, maybe the IC can help there better.
Your husband did not trust your intentions for initiating after his ILYBNILWY speech. he stated that out loud. At some point, you are going to have to speak the truth about this to him...state just like you did above, that you are sorry if you had hurt him in all of this when I comes to the love making frequency. That you DO have physical needs too and desire them from him.
If you were to do this, you could also tell him you are not sure that every day is a reasonable frequency and then state what you also wanted...cuddling and fooling around. Sometimes these things won't always lead to sex.
IDK, maybe this is a topic for when your husband decides to come back to the table, with MC help. it seams like a big unaddressed topic (AS IT HAD BEEN IN MY MARRIAGE AS WELL). As with the rest, the trust has to come back first...for both of you!
Sorry if I dredged something up that I shouldn't have...was just curious on your take for that. Wouldn't it be nice to just be able to tell your H about your dream...just flat out.
