Hey neighbour! I agree with RD that you are doing so well, and I think you are handling the sitch WRT OM with maturity and compassion. I applaud you because that is not easy by any means.

I know what you are saying about your W seeming happier than she has in years. But I still say - you know the stats when it comes to A's becoming successful R's long term. Your W and OM would be in a minority group for sure if that happens.

I understand what you say about feeling it may be time to file. You're from my cohort Jim, and for many of us that time has arrived in different ways. It is such a personal thing and there is no right answer - only when the time feels right for you.

I'm glad you are continuing with the IC, and I know the GAL plans will come together too. It takes gentle persistence I think, and extending yourself just a little further. Please always remember how very far you have come already and that who you become as a result of these difficult times is the most important thing here.

I can tell you one thing Jim. If you and your W don't reconcile, some other lucky lady is going to think she has won the lottery at some point in the future. She doesn't know who she is yet - but she's out there somewhere. All will unfold in time.

Take care my friend xx

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus