A few days ago my wife just confessed that she slept with OM while away overseas. I found out that she's been in love with him for over a year. I am profoundly devastated. We had only ever been with each other. 18 years together, 3 girls. I came here in my shock and agony.
I remembered everything I've read by you about WW. She broke the covenant. I want no contact. Until this happened I was willing to help her in our separation, to remain friends and give our M some space and hope while I worked on myself. She has never had any consequences for her actions, and I don't feel that she understands the enormity of what she has done. I will not be her 'gay boyfriend', plummer, handyman, etc. As a man and a father, this is what my gut is telling me.
I don't want to punish her, but I think it's insane to allow someone to treat me and my children with such calculated disrespect. I have been her hero my whole life, loved her and provided for her through everything and have always been faithful. I was her best friend, and her mine. I would never spend time with someone who acted this way, nor enable them.
Because this OM is very unattainable due to the enormous distance and him having a family and children, it's not a normal A. It changes nothing in her heart, and I'm expecting her to possibly try and move overseas to be with him, but I would like to get your thoughts on this. Thank you so much for reading and all you have shared here. I am asking you for a gut-check.
M 16y , T 18y , 3 Kids 7/14 ILYBINILWY 8/14 Takes off rings 5/15 OM, S PA 8/15 10/15 A new hope. Rumbles of Reconciliation. 11/15 I can have what I want. What do I want?
