Yes, she thinks it stems back to when she was 12 years old or so.
Drinking?
It has been an issue for years. I tried many times to "fix it" for her. Realized she isn't going to budge on it till she wants to. She has been the drink till there is no more booze type drinker. Just didn't buy booze often. She has bought it with more and more frequency as this situation started playing itself out. She is now drunk 4-5 night / week, possibly more.
Not taking the meds after taking them for years?
Yes. Part of my initial pleading with her was to get beg her to start seeing someone and get back on her meds.
As for your identity - I firmly disagree with the idea of having one separate like you describe. I'm firmly in the camp of bonding and becoming one entity. My identity is not important in the scheme of things - my marriage and family are.
I agree with you on that as well. My issue is from the perspective of a LBS.
I'm serious when I say that you should be careful about letting her back. This seems oddly familiar to me in a lot of ways and I'm quite sure how it will end if she comes back and doesn't deal with her issues. She needs to be firmly of the mind of working on the marriage before returning. No exceptions.
On this I believe I can be strong. I have zero desire to go through anything like this ever again.
My opinion. Take it for what it's worth.
I respect and admire your opinion. It is worth a lot. You and Cali are both very wise.
M: 38 W: 37 T: 20 M: 19 Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12 BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out) PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM) Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015
