In the larger picture, should we not turn the other cheek?
Heavy,
It does help to know I am not alone in feeling the way I feel. I also agree that we should turn the other cheek (see my reply to raliced below). I am trying sooo hard to rise above things and not be petty - hence my username and the name of my thread. I just have such difficulty doing it right now. Just not there yet.
Originally Posted By: raliced
no matter how your situation ends up, you’re going to be parenting together.
Raliced, I hear you 100%. I know the righteous indignation is a defense mechanism. I know it prevents me from detaching and focusing on myself. I know all this intellectually. I am just struggling with internalizing it. Especially with everyone around me telling me how awful W is. Frankly, right now, I agree with them. Still your other points about W seeing what she is missing and kids wanting to share their experiences speak to me more strongly. I will upload the pics, also so I can share pics with my sisters and my mom.
Originally Posted By: Fogg
being alone for a while could be good for me also.
I dunno, Fogg. I see how being alone can be good, especially if one is exiting a co-dependent relationship. But I feel a different imperative. I am 44 years old. I certainly don't want to rush into a new relationship, but I am also not getting any younger or more attractive (well, maybe more attractive ) I don't want to be alone forever. perhaps it is cultural. It says in the bible (Genesis 2:18) "it is not good that man is alone." I miss companionship. My male friends, G-d bless them, just don't cut it.
Still your other points about W seeing what she is missing and kids wanting to share their experiences speak to me more strongly. I will upload the pics, also so I can share pics with my sisters and my mom.
) I don't want to be alone forever. perhaps it is cultural. It says in the bible (Genesis 2:18) "it is not good that man is alone." I miss companionship. My male friends, G-d bless them, just don't cut it.