Thank you Vanilla. When W worked overnight RN shift on Monday, I did sit D:13 and s:8 down to talk. I told them W and I both love them. I told them they do not have to feel like they are picking sides. I told them we are working on our R and that no matter what we will always love our kids. I have always been a very, very involved dad and have always been loving. This will not change. I assured them I love their mom as well. I feel bad that my W tells my D:13 information to relay to me. For example, telling her that she is going to stay night at BFF house or her moms house, instead of W telling me first. I do not want my children having to deal with adult issues. They are innocent, big hearted children. They do not need stress and to worry about their future at this age. W and I both come from divorced parents. We always swore to each other as we have witnessed 3 different couples, who are close friends, go through divorce, that we would not go down that path. Now, she is saying she does not love me, does not feel intimate towards me, wants to separate. Yet, we remain in the same house and I feel it is a gift of time. I need to make sure I make real changes within myself and use this time wisely. Stop pushing my motives and stop feeding into my insecurities of the future.
