U, I think not telling your kids just yet is right on track, but not telling W and letting her be surprised just doesn't sit right with me. How does it make you feel? It very well may be the right choice for your sich, but do a gut check and then a head check. Both are important. Did you ask your L about it? Is that what he recommended? Again, it may be the right choice here, but what if you gave her notice the night before? Not enough time to do anything about it, but she still heard it from you first. Is that possible?
