Well the night did not go as expected. I was thinking that I would get home from work and then take my son to his football mentor day/picture day/pizza party. My wife and daughter also decided to go, which I was not expecting. I realize W did this to support my son and not to go with me. Our house is located about 3/4 of a mile from the high school where the party was. She chose to drive separate. I drove my son and she drove my daughter. Awkward, but just another example of how good she is at keeping a wall up and keeping distance between us. Won't even ride in the same car as me. The event was about an hour and half long. We were able to talk casually a little about S and enrolling him in wrestling, talking about schedule of football practice/games and that I would only be able to take him to preseason wrestling once a week, and we bought a few items for the kids at the event (shirts). She left with D:13 after the picture portion of mentor day. They went school shopping. I did not ask if she was coming home or staying with her mom with D:13. I did not ask anything, just said have fun shopping. After mentor day, I mowed, did dishes, and did some laundry. Then me and my S:8 went for a 2 mile run. Came home from run and no sign of daughter and W. It was already dark and about 9:30pm. Checked phone and no messages. So, assuming they are staying at MIL. Took shower and when I came out they were home. I kept to following the rules. I truly had a good day and was displaying a good mood. Only talking to W when she addressed me. Focusing on kids. We watched Jimmy Fallon and sent the kids to bed. She prepared the couch to sleep on it. I slipped a little in the rules department and said to her you don't have to sleep on the couch. She said I want to. I said OK. I then went to my MB and pretty much so passed out. I have been running on 3-4 hours of sleep for 5 weeks now. Last night I got 6-1/2. I am supposed to go out of town for my overnight (I am in outside sales). I think I am going to come home instead. I want to go to my son's football practice and I want to spend some more time around the household. However, I think this is not following the rules of detachment. In regards to the comments on family, I have not contacted my SIL or BIL for at least 3 weeks, maybe 4 weeks. I stopped trying when they stopped returning my calls and messages. I have not tried to contact her friends at all. Her mom would certainly answer my calls. However, I am not contacting her either. I was just wondering if there was a way to counteract their influence. They are just trying to be supportive and loving of her. They are only getting her side of the story. I just feel as though they are giving her bad advice. Well, bad advice for our M. They want her to be happy. I want her to be happy as well.
