Hello again Wonka. Thank you so much for the insight. I keep meaning to write posts about what it means to have been able to move away from XW while still DBing. At first I was so happy about the possibility to live with her for 6 months while we figured this out but thanks to your advice I was spared that. I am much happier thanks to your advice.
As for now, don't you think I should at least reply with my proposal first and reassure her that I want to work together and I'm not trying to take S12? I have done a great job apparently of acting "as if." She has mentioned in some emails she believes I want a divorce and only seems to react positively when I turn around and I acknowledge her concerns. I know I have to at least acknowledge her fears about this.
Either way, I want to make this agreement with a lawyer's help. I don't know how to get an agreement finalized and move with S12 like you say if now she is so against this.
I do have a call in to a recommended lawyer and will confer ASAP. For now, can't I say (again) I agree with her plan, want to work with her, and I am moving on?
Me: 44 W: 45 S: 11 Married: 15 Together: 18 BD: 9/29/2014 OM discovered: 10/16/2014 I left her behind: 12/14/2014