I love Paris, I spent a whole summer there as a student. In the Latin quarter of the city, it's glorious at this time of the year.
My very favourite part near the Seine, and there is a glorious selection of restaurants including a couple that specialise in cider, sparkling Normandy cider. I am so envious just at this moment.
Completely green with envy.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Names? I'd love to try a sparkling cider like that.
I just finished My Life in France by Julia Child. I think she might be my hero. Focused, determined, hard-headed, but also full of appreciation, prioritizing her loved ones, committed to constant self-improvement. I'd like to find my inner Julia.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Maybell, I hope you have an amazing trip-- so excited for you! And that your move goes smoothly and you get settled in. I look forward to hearing updates about your new space.
I hear you about the in-laws. There is a part of this that feels like a betrayal by them, too. I've heard that my MIL won't speak to stbx about this situation. .. I feel angry that she didn't try harder to advocate for the marriage.
Paris was AMAZING. Really life changing. Then 36 hours after I got home I closed on both houses and moved. So things have been chaotic. There was a lot to square away (and still is) but it's amazing how much better things are with all that behind us.
I was interested in comparing notes with the friend I traveled with, about how divorce has changed her expectations of herself and of what her life should hold. I was very surprised that her hopes for her future are no greater now than before she divorced him (due to his uncontrolled mental illness.) it's really important to her to remarry, and she's willing to settle to achieve that goal. At this point, I'm not, and in fact the effort to date is more than I'm even interested in. I still have a LOT to learn about myself.
I've met a lot of new neighbors and have been to two parties since Saturday. I noticed that I don't love parties, but I do love getting to know new people. Also that the more people I meet who only know post-marriage me, the stronger and less pitiful I feel.
I'm relying on my friends a lot lately and I hope at some point I can start reciprocating the generosity they've shown me. I'm trying. I can't wait to make my home more orderly so those things are a little more automatic and less effortful.
Nothing interesting to talk about regarding STBX. He has done very little to keep the splitting of joint finances happening, and nothing without being prompted. He's still using joint credit cards which I'm NOT happy about. However, evidentiary hearing is next week, so it won't be much longer.
I will chime in on the affair-site hacking to say I have an idle curiosity to know if he used it, but I pretty much assume he did and I'm ok with where I am now. Agree the credit cards shouldn't have been dumped and hope it doesn't harm any innocents.
Anyway... Bon soir, mes amis!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Maybell! Welcome back! So glad you had a nice trip. And wow, closing and moving right after, I can't even get my vacation laundry done in 36 hours, much less move a household. You amaze me.
I envision you in the sunny kitchen of your new home, wearing a classic Breton sailor shirt, jaunty Dior scarf and sassy beret. Hope things go smoothly as you settle into the new digs.
Paris! Wow, I haven't read your thread since you moved here, but I frequently thought about you and wondered how you were, what had happened. It felt like a TV series suspended for the summer season. Now I come back, you've been to Paris (you always meant to travel more!) and you've closed on two houses (two? anyway, it was such a stress earlier!). So it's full of good news and a beautiful life with positive steps. It makes me happy tonight.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
