I think I need to clarify, by engage I do not mean R talk. I don't do that. Engagement I meant was she was being nasty and sullen and I said it appears to me that there may be something bothering you.... Her answer was, you didn't notice for X years, I wish you wouldn't notice now. I didn't get angry, that however really pissed her off. I guess I only took her bait half way, next time I ask and walk if her reply is hostile or non receptive.
