She later said she would never trust me again and i would never trust her again
She said she couldn't trust YOU? Classic. See how a WW twists things around?
So, where does this leave you? Are you going to live with a woman who is having some sort of an A with another man?
I think she will call it in-house separation, which means she has all the advantages of M without the responsibilities. In other words, she continues being wayward. If you balk about something, she will scream "we are separated and I can do whatever I want". However, she will expect the same privileges she's always had as your W. In-house S is not pleasant b/c it's not really a S. You are still thrown together with all the problems, and your stress level can go through the roof as she goes on her merry way and leaves you to take care of house, kids, bills, etc.
Just giving you fair warning. She seems to be the one who calls the shots, so I'd be very careful, if I were you. If this is not what you want, then don't accept it. Oh, and don't keep on suggesting she works on the M. That is not going to happen, as far as she's concerned. You have no idea how much you hurt your chances when you bring up that subject. It is totally disgusting, is pressuring, and looks very pathetic to a WW.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
