Paris was AMAZING. Really life changing. Then 36 hours after I got home I closed on both houses and moved. So things have been chaotic. There was a lot to square away (and still is) but it's amazing how much better things are with all that behind us.
I was interested in comparing notes with the friend I traveled with, about how divorce has changed her expectations of herself and of what her life should hold. I was very surprised that her hopes for her future are no greater now than before she divorced him (due to his uncontrolled mental illness.) it's really important to her to remarry, and she's willing to settle to achieve that goal. At this point, I'm not, and in fact the effort to date is more than I'm even interested in. I still have a LOT to learn about myself.
I've met a lot of new neighbors and have been to two parties since Saturday. I noticed that I don't love parties, but I do love getting to know new people. Also that the more people I meet who only know post-marriage me, the stronger and less pitiful I feel.
I'm relying on my friends a lot lately and I hope at some point I can start reciprocating the generosity they've shown me. I'm trying. I can't wait to make my home more orderly so those things are a little more automatic and less effortful.
Nothing interesting to talk about regarding STBX. He has done very little to keep the splitting of joint finances happening, and nothing without being prompted. He's still using joint credit cards which I'm NOT happy about. However, evidentiary hearing is next week, so it won't be much longer.
I will chime in on the affair-site hacking to say I have an idle curiosity to know if he used it, but I pretty much assume he did and I'm ok with where I am now. Agree the credit cards shouldn't have been dumped and hope it doesn't harm any innocents.
Anyway... Bon soir, mes amis!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
