Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

After thinking about the custody arrangement some more, think I'm going to start enforcing the overnights at WW's house. She keeps saying how she wants and expects 50% custody, but hasn't spent more than a few hours/week with the boys in months. She's been living the fantasy kid-free party girl lifestyle. Honestly, I don't think she really wants the kids there, just the support money that goes along with 50% custody. So I'm gonna give it to her. Up to now, we've been giving the kids the option of whether to stay or not, and they almost always choose to be here with me.

Going forward, I'm not letting that be an option. I actually prefer that they be home with me, but I'm sick of being the excuse that they don't spend time with mom. She needs to get a fresh taste of dealing with what it's like to have boys fighting with each other every few minutes, making all the meals over a 24-hour period, getting them baths, washing clothes, etc. Right now, I'm doing 95% of the work. My gut feeling is that it's going to overwhelm her and she'll be asking to go back to what we had. But at least then it will be her choice, and she can quit whining about how I'm in a competition to make myself look better than her to the kids, and that's why they always choose to be with me.