I am on my way home from work. I am going to read the rules again before entering the house. My D:13 told me yesterday that W is styling night at her mom's house. I want to try to validate her feelings when she tells me. This is an area that I know I have done poorly in - being empathetic and listening without reacting or injecting what I want. I want to to stay home, even though time and space is what she obviously needs and/or wants. She does not want to be around me. When she wants to do something I don't want her to do, I need to remain calm. So, she will say bluntly "I am going to stay at my mom's tonight". Me - I can see how having some time and space away would help you feel better. That would be my 180. Instead of trying to talk her in to staying. Any feedback here?
