U-turn, My vacation was awesome. Thanks for asking. Possibly the best vacation of my life. S13 and S11 loved it. But as amazing as it was, it is all the harder coming back to my sitch. So hard to detach. I have submitted all the discovery paperwork for the D. I want and need to move forward. I don't want to do mediation. How can I do mediation and negotiate with someone whom I do not trust. There is no good will - mutually. There is so much anxiety surrounding the process. However, I know that I will not be able to detach adequately until we are no longer under the same roof. Still a lot of anger towards WW.
Originally Posted By: Mozza
As for your changes, maybe you can try to list them. The list doesn't have to be long, though certain items may be more important than others. In my case, I'm closer to my kids, closer to my parents, more knowledgeable about relationships, more self-aware and in better shape. That's just the start. It's not so bad. So yes, we change, even though it can be difficult to see it on a given day.
Mozza, I have definitely changed in certain respects: 1. I am more loving and lenient towards my children. I am recognizing each of their primary love languages and emphasizing them. I am trying to spend more time with each of them. I have more patience for them. I think I am seeing results. 2. I am in better physical shape. This was apparent on the many hikes I did during my vacation see below. I also look leaner and more defined. a long way to go still. 3. I am closer with my family, especially my sisters and mother. Part of it is that I need the support, and may still be self-serving, but I like to think that even when all this is over (if it ever is??) that we will remain closer than before.
raliced, it has been a few weeks, but thanks for the reassurance regarding telling D9. Thus far, kids know we are getting D. We don't talk about it much although S13 asked me if he will still see me daily after D. I told him no. Very painful. The (older) kids must all be going through their own he-- due to lack of information. I am also not sure what to tell them yet. I really need to work on getting them in to see psychologist.
Bob, when you tell me I am in your prayers, I know you really mean it. thanks so much.
I had been reading all of your threads briefly over my vacation (and some others, namely Fogg and HeavyD). I know we are all struggling in our own ways. I am so thankful that we have each other. Sorry I have not had too much time to visit your threads. Hopefully will have some time to catch up soon.
