Moving Through It

[asitis]

Yes, the go along with me no matter what approach, then temper tantrum when you say tried, but this isn't working and I need another approach.

I'm prepared that for all our good intentions to solve this amicably as we don't see any issues may evaporate when the reality of the nitty gritty strikes. There are any number of issues that one or both of us haven't considered that derail the best laid plans.

I think at a certain point we decide that there may be hope in the future some time (@10% of divorced couples re-marry each other for instance), but that it is so low that it isn't worth holding on to.

At that point we need to wrestle with the acceptance & giving up control. Not an easy or quick move.

I'm torn between DB Coach's suggestion and the need to work on unattaching. They are sometimes at odds. I go back and forth. It definitely isn't a linear process.

Hang in there.