Just caught up a bit on your sitch ..... just going to throw this out there, its all about your fears, your dreams, W ... hope .. all that .... guess what part you have missed?
What are you doing GAL wise? What goals have you made for yourself. Have you thought about any 180's that you can do?
DBing is not solely about detaching, and I will tell you this.... if you just attempt to detach without GAL, its going to be tough. As far as the dreams go, man .. I have had some of those and can realte .. still have them to be honest. I was told that dreams are just your brains way of processing information ... not good or bad, just something that needs to be done.
As far as hope, success stories ... there are a few .. I think Mozza had a list going at one point. When I first came here I too would search, and could not understand why if someone actually saved their M why they would not continue to post and help others .... I have been back with my W for a couple months now, working things out .. slowly ... I can see why the success story types might opt to only touch base here now and then.... reading the hurts and pains constantly is tough, its like feeling that open wound at times all over again .... just my guess on why you do not see more of those types post more often.
Regardless of the M, this is about you right now. What are YOU doing, new GALs? Goals? Focus more on you ... ya know .. the ONE person you actually can control YOU ... less on her.
