have I been making mistakes too long part3

[sandi2]

I read a post yesterday and I cant seem to find it again. The poster was saying that he has not read any stories on here where the WAW came back. Is this really the case? I haven't looked for such a story but I find it hard to believe that there are none.

No, that is not true! I have stuck around for a little over eight years and although I am not good remembering names, I can tell you there have been several couples to reconcile. Hey, I am one of them! Starsky, Bond, 25yrsmlc, Greek & Coach, Robx, and many more that I can't remember their poster name at the moment. Just b/c you may not find their stories, does not mean it was not successful. My story isn't under "Another Divorce Busted", either.

If there are not such stories here on this site then I want to be the first.

I love that attitude!

I sure hope im doing the detach right. I realize this is only the 16th day ive been taking DB seriously. The detaching is working for me but the W seems miles away and has not said anything about me being detached. She seems to like the fact that I am not around much. I know you guys know what you are talking about so im staying the course.

Remember, the detaching is really about attitude. It is within yourself. You will have up and down days, but keep at it.

At first, you will probably see her enjoying not having your presence smothering her, and you not pressuring her to stay in the M. She thinks she's getting what she wants. Most WW/WAW's want their privacy and freedom. It is important that you don't show a gloom & doom face around her. Be nonchalant and act as if you are fine. Work that calendar and make a point to be out of the house GAL (as much as you can).

You will feel that your W is getting further away from you. That's how it often works. Don't panic. The point is for her to actually get away far enough to see some reality of what her life without you would be. Right now, she has a fantasy idea, and she needs to experience the reality. In order for this to happen, you can't hold onto the rope you have around her. Let it go and let her fall. It doesn't mean you'll not have a future with her. Letting her go emotionally is what you have to do, if you want any hope of getting her back.