WAS or what (2)

[roist]

When I get back I may start a new thread WAW or WAH.

I have had this holiday as a landmark all year. Just get to then and we'll see. Well I made it and unfortunately instead of waiting until we got back my thoughts turned negative early and I am spending way too much time in neg thinking.

I had done a long post but lost it. I really need some vets help. I am not at the point where I don't want my M anymore. I am close to giving up.

I want so much for us to work. I want so much for this situation to end. I have no plan B so maybe there is not much I can do straight away..

I think she is unhappy in general and not specifically or rather not exclusively with me. That I suppose is better than exclusively with me. But he is unhappy being with me. That I can see. Why does she not drop the bomb, idk, but I assume it is for kids sake.

If I steal a kiss or a touch, there is no repulsive reaction, but apart from good morning and goodnight kisses there is nothing initiated by her. We have not ML in over two years now. That is getting harder to live with.

I think she feels trapped and has no good options. Again mind reading.

I think I want her to drop the bomb and then we stop pretending. I do not want it to come from me. I have a few options, that I am considering.

1. Reinitiate physical contact as if we are happy couple. She will either go along with it and I break this two year drought or she will be unwilling to, in which case that will be the straw that breaks the camels back.
2. A more direct version of 1. I tell her that I do not want a sexless/loveless M. It is not an option going forward so either we find a way to reintigrate it if we are to survive.
3. Tell her, that I can see she is unhappy and that although it is not what I want she should leave me if she wants out.
4. Talk to her and ask is there a way to work together on making this better
5. Do nothing......nothing direct.
6. Tell W I am fed up being alone and explain this etc.

I know most of these are anti-DR, but I feel I have lost some self-respect in just accepting things.

Is my best bet to saving my M to sit it out (OK whilst working on me etc) or do I have to change this dynamic first. I admit that I hope shaking the appkecart could save things, but I mostly don't likebeing in this apple cart.

HELP ME.