got here late

[ATPeace]

Duke keep being strong and focus on you

This is something that I should have enlisted a while ago

I wish I knew the answer some of the breakups seem so easy to fix if each person was just able to work just a little bit with each other

I hope you manage to sort things out

Take care my friend

Ghost

[duke]

Thanks Ghost

I spoke with a mutual friend last night who said that she was talking with w when this all went down. She said that w made the decision after she looked at our investments, it was the final straw she said. This really [censored]. I miss her so much. I have not spoke with her at all for 15 days now, no communication. When I Skype with my kids she goes outside. The hardest part is how quickly she turned to cold and heartless after being so caring. I really wish I could fix this.

[duke]

Bad day folks, I don't know why really. I have the option to work from home when I want to so here I am. Wife and kids are on holiday until Aug 30 when the return I am sure she will be pushing hard for legal separation and mediation the first week of Sept. I miss her so much its nuts.

[Cristy]

Hello Duke,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

The investments are the last straw? I'm sure many of us are disappointed with how our investments are growing (or not growing) over recent years. You have the gift of time right now, use it wisely!

Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

Cristy
Resource Coordinator
The Divorce Busting Center
303-444-7004

[duke]

Thanks Cristy. I feel pretty hopeless right now. I think she is hellbent on the fast track to separation and once she gets back the hammer will fall. I cant really afford coaching but I think its a good idea. Any other advice? I don't want to move on. I am so used to being a great husband and dad I don't know what else to do.

[duke]

How effective will this 30 days apart with no communication at all with W be?

[duke]

So my plan is to get some nice new clothes and pick them all up at the airport on the 30th. I will do my best to be upbeat and will be super happy to see them. I plan to have some nice flowers for my girls and may have some for my wife. I am sure there will be lots of hugs and I missed yous. Should I get anything for my wife and hug her at all or wait to see how she is acting? Her mother will probably be there and she is a really negative influence overall. She wont be happy to see me and has already sent an email to W saying I will "probably be butting in" at the airport.

[Azzork]

How effective will this 30 days apart with no communication at all with W be?

In general: it took 16 years for your M to get to this point. It isn't going to be repaired in a month. There's no telling what her mood will be. All you can do is keep up with the not pursuing and wait for her to come to you.

[duke]

I agree Azzork, thank you. I think I am still in the panic stage and would do anything not to lose her and my family. We have a good family friend that W looks up to that has done personal and relationship coaching. She really wants to talk with my W when she gets back, she is convinced this can be fixed or at least not handed over to lawyers. My W found out we spoke and was not happy but the friend told her that it was she that made the contact and wanted to speak about what was going on.

[duke]

I picked up Divorce Remedy today. I have been spending quite a bit of time on this site looking for similar stories and tidbits of what I can be doing. I have come to the realization that my chances of getting back together are pretty slim but I have to give it my best effort. I feel that my wife basically hates me at this point and I have a long road ahead of me. What are other peoples thoughts on chances overall for most people that come to this site? Its a great support group for sure but there doesn't seem to be a lot of success stories about couples getting back together.