WAH, in the thick of divorce

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So the meeting started out with me stating that the mishap last night happened because we seem to have two understandings as to what the current parenting schedule is so I am not leaving today without something written down by all the parties. Dr. C agreed that was a good idea. I am very proud of the fact that I stayed calm, stood my ground and everything I said was to the benefit of the child not to my needs or wants. He never once mentions what was in the best interest of the child but to what was easiest on his schedule.

His whole argument is just that he wants 50/50 over night split. It doesn't matter to him if the quality time spent with S is equal. He even said no to a 60/40 school year split, more consistency durning the week, and then picking up the extra overnights to make it 50/50 throughout the summer. So that in the calendar year it would total out to 50/50. I just don't understand his resistance to negotiation.

I called my IC after the appointment to get her take. She works in the same practice as Dr. C and I signed a waiver so they could talk to each other. I just love her because her specialty is working with women on rebuilding their lives after a relationship. She called me back and said she spoke to Dr. C and Dr. C told her how proud she was of me and the way I was during the meeting. I was all about the best interest of the child and clearly willing to come to a conclusion as long as it provided consistency for the child. I am so glad that the professional in the room was able to see how he was stone walling the process. She will confer with each of our L's next week as to the potential setback his lack of decision making is causing.

We came to a temporary (hopefully turned permanent) solution until the next collaborative session which is Sept 1.