Zues, respectfully... you're wrong on this. I am praying for her, but I don't think that's incompatible with detachment. If it is, then I choose prayer over detachment.

What she referred to today isn't anything she hasn't seen before, many times. Her question sort of came out of the blue and caught me off guard. The fact is, she doesn't live here now. So I don't think about whether the bible is open or shut - it was usually shut before because we typically read it together on the couch and replaced it on the stand. But now, I read it on the stand because I'm alone. Nothing more, nothing less.

For some reason, this unnerved her today. Not yesterday, not last week, not two months ago. If she sees it as more than the not big deal it is to me, am I supposed to react to whatever her issues are?

Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19