One other thing WW talked about while she was here: she wanted a timeline for us to settle accounts - canceling credit cards and bank accounts and planning for movers, etc. I know in the DB world, this is just part of the process, not an end to anything but what wound up being a bad relationship, and one that has to end in order for there to be any hope for a new one.

I actually just went through and drew up the list, figuring this might help me with a sense of closure as well. But instead, it just felt like a punch in the gut... this woman, who once wanted nothing more than for us to care for each other, to be one, to share our lives forever... how can this be possible? How could we be so in love in March, and so calculated and cold today?

I don't know, it just hit me hard for some reason. I've got my divorce care group tonight, I'll get past it. But this [censored].


Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19