Yeah it's the same story but everyone is a bit different. For example, I stopped the chase and affection and all that so, my wife found someone(s?) else to do it. I gotta say that was a huge fail huh? She needs to be adored and needed and desired (we're married 16 yrs and I guess I just figured that out). Anyway, that's why the disengagement thing isn't right for me, I don't think. What is is being strong and attractive. Here's an example, a guy curses at my wife in a parking lot-I would've ignored it previously, instead I go ballistic. She was initially "upset" but hasn't stopped telling the story with pride since.
