So this is my first post. Today is 5 months since I found out about my WW PA late last year. I think she's now moved on to an EA with a man old enough to be her dad. The latter I called out last week. She told me she would stop talking with the guy if I insisted and I told her the relationship was inappropriate, she knew that, and that she was smart enough and good enough to make the right decisions on her own. I have been working 180s hard. I was distant, suffering from some pretty bad PTSD, so some of my 180s involve me being more engaged-around the house, as a father as man of the house etc. They involve me not allowing her to bully me into submission anymore. My line has been that I am working on being the man I want to be. How it's affecting her? I have no idea. She seems like a teenager. For example the other day, she tells me I am the most handsome man she knows, taking candid photos of me, sharing them with her brother (he's gay and sends her his SO's pics to show off too.) Then yesterday, the moodiness starts. I ignore it, pretending I believe her that she "isn't feeling well" and then today, she lashes out. I went to the car dealership and told them they have to fix something and call her back by cob today. She yelled at me and said I can't do everything for her I can't make up for not doing things for 12 years. My response was that I could see she was upset, and if she wanted to talk I would listen, but I was not going to stop being the man I want to be. I would not let others dictate my actions anymore and that my goal was to know I did the best I could that day and go to bed proud of myself. I guess my question, is, what the heck is going on in that head. I can't figure out if this was triggered by the fact she enjoyed a weekend at her dad's together as a family (I usually allowed her to exclude me previously) or if it's because I called her out on her inappropriate relationship last week, and now we're home again. She is definitely trying to punish and control me though. She even took off her rings the past 2 days. I did call her on that too because the last time she did that, I didn't say anything, I figured it was worth mentioning as long as I didn't let any answer affect me. Thoughts?
