I need help to get through the day. Last night, my d:13 told me before bed that she feels like she is going to have to pick sides between me and W. I asked her what she means. She said when you guys divorce I feel like I will need to pick sides. I said we have not decided to get a divorce. She said mom has decided. She said W and W sister has told her. I said W has not told me that. D:13 says she wishes I would be more supportive of mom. I said I am doing everything I can to stay married and want W to be happy. I don't know what W and W sister has told my D:13. I did not tell daughter this, but I'm thinking my W has done everything she can to avoid telling me what is going on, won't tell me how she feels, won't communicate with me unless it is child related. I think the fact that I over react, beg, argue my case, and plead with her to work on our R and M, she is avoiding all serious talk. I am not sure I can support her decision to leave me. How do I show her support without giving her the go ahead? I have told her I am here for her and want to work on our R and M. I want to keep this together and she is putting all her effort into making sure it can't happen. W worked an overnight last night and works another overnight tonight. Wednesday she is off and I anticipate either total avoidance or the big BD. I am not sure what to do or say at this point. Having a fight with her Sunday certainly has not helped. I did all the talking and tried to get her to open up. It didn't work. She just kept saying she didn't know why or when she stopped loving me, would not tell me if their is OM. Told me we are done. She does not want to try to work on anything. What am I to do?
