When EA was exposed she said she was sorry wanted to work on it and makes plans for both but we had a rollercoaster few months since all blew up. It was basically my accepting the situation thrown on to me and venting it out as I healed. Things have quietened down last month or so with quick short discussions when there are any.
What she has said is there is a history and she needs time, the EA wasnt the problem but our relationship and last month she could not bear to talk to me but now we are sleeping together with the small baby steps I mentioned.
My real problem is I do not know what to do. I think sometimes it is best to not initiate touch of any kind. If she wants a cuddle hug or more then she should make the move but then I read that you must be loving etc. Sometimes I read someone in a similar situation and you use the detach and I think about using it but then think maybe my situation is not the same and it will backfire.
I like helping and while not being over helpful try to act like a normal husband would as she is not ignoring me, she helps me as well and for example will bring me coffee if I am working (just did as I posted this) as she makes one for herself so maybe detaching or taking one step back is not correct.
She sometimes hints when we quarrel that I have someone else. I have told her there isn't anyone but sometimes when I sms someone from work I dont tell her so she doesnt have full control on who I talk with, the same way I dont control her.
In answer to your question maybe it is early but then I would like to know in what situation do you then think I am really in.
