Well yesterday was the worst day of my life. Got a second bomb drop. W slept with OM while away in europe. Her and I have known each other since we were 12 years old. We have only been with each other sexually. This hurts more than anything I have ever felt. It's really over. Thank you all for the support and encouragement. She is a wayward wife. Wish sandi could offer me something.
I have to take some time to deal with this pain. Then figure out how to take care of my little girls. I can't go on anymore with DB. We talked about it for an hour. She says that I'm lovely, and that she wants to feel that way for me, but that her heart is never going to open up to me again.
Im sorry Solo. There's nothing I can say that will ease the pain of the betrayal and rejection that Im sure you must be feeling now. All I can say is to not put too much stock into the things that she says to and about you right now while she is full of waywardness.
With that said it's just NOT really over.....unless you want it to be. If this is a line in the sand that you are unwilling to cross, then by all means, it is your choice to let this be "the end". But if you are still interested in the possibility of restoring your marriage, then this really doesnt change things all that much.
You have each started your separate journeys that will take you on different paths. The DB process starts out as a marriage saving tool, but it's really more a way of saving YOU. All of the focus of this process is about making Solo15 into the best version of Solo15 possible. There isnt anything any of us can do to control the words, thoughts, and actions of your wife, so all of the advice is focused on you with the ultimate goal of restoring your marriage.
I would like to ask you two questions:
1) What does it mean to you to stop DBing?
2) If you I could wave a wand make you divorced right this second, what would be different for you?
