LBS becomes the WS. The price of peace.

[RosaLinda]

Sorry if I misunderstood you, I was basing my advice on your statements:

"Maybe 5 years ago and attractive woman entered my work place. I was a happily M man, so didn’t think twice about it. Even in later years when I wasn’t happily M, I was still M. In the past few months nothing has really changed in our R, however MY attitude has."

"I have found myself, “telling” myself, even forcefully at times, that I am “allowed” to perceive this attractive woman as a potential R prospect. Now, 6 months post –appocolypse, I am remarkably detached and “over” my M blowing up and grieving for my W."

"I honestly believe that my W was not looking for it. She was confronted with the same dilemma I am in that moment when I feel guilty. I feel “guilty” for even considering a R with OW. This consideration is prompted from a different place. She is not pursuing me, but it is “available”."

Undoubtedly you WILL find yourself in a happy relationship with some attractive woman some day in the future. The work you're doing on yourself DBing will make you an equally attractive man.

I shall go back to silently reading along LOL