Thanks for clarifying 4. Yes, sitting with your emotions is absolutely on the right track. I'm sorry I misunderstood.
This is very new. It makes perfect sense that you will be hung up emotionally on this man, and that your emotions will be real. I support sitting with them, not denying them, and being there for yourself to provide comfort and companionship through this hard time.
The emotions get a voice, but what they DON'T get to do is run the show. That means driving your behavior, or even driving your thoughts all day long. Definitely experience your emotions and listen to them, but then at some point you can say "ok, I've heard what you have to say on that, I acknowledge your point of view, now I'm going to listen to another emotion that is giving me reasons to be confident and upbeat for a bit".
One thing I'd ABSOLUTELY recommend- as a break from the hard work- is the movie INSIDE OUT. It just came out in theaters a couple of months ago. (I just checked, it's still in theaters in my area). This is one of my favorite movies of all time now. Look up the reviews. It is a movie about the emotions inside this girl. Each one is a separate person, and they are all trying to influence the girl. "Joy" is the leader, and she tries to keep a tight leash on "sadness" so the girl is happy all of the time. Meanwhile she is fending off "anger" and "disgust".
There's much more to it than that, but I will tell you that both me and my best friend (who saw it separately) agreed it was one of the best movies ever made. Look at it as a GAL activity. At the same time it is extremely eye opening as far as how to understand yourself when you feel like something's not working right emotionally.
OK, keep up the good work, a tough of GAL is just what the dr. ordered so you are adding some fun stuff!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
