Very good advice Cadet. While I accept that sometimes the 1 month per year of marriage is a guideline only, it's still good basis to go by.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.