LBS becomes the WS. The price of peace.

[Pyrite]

I was replying to Zeus and thought I should include this update here.

Their is a fundamental Buddhist meditation of love and compassion where you one by one bring people into your focus, and meditate on showing them compassion and love. The Buddhist interpretation of love, even romantic love is to unselfishly wish happiness, enlightenment for the other person, and nothing in return. As soon as we have any "requirements" of that person, it is not pure love, it is flawed and doomed to bring misery.

Eventually we can bring every sentient being in the world into this focus. I can include my STBX. Including the OM is a struggle though. So how do you know when it works? How do you know when you have successfully shown compassion and love and wish only for that persons happiness? This is a problem with all meditations.

BUT I have discovered something, it hit me in one go, but the reality was I had to practice this many times to realise it. First of course start with a breathing meditation, and then bring your children into focus. It is so easy to feel pure love for your children. Even if I stop here - I find I am in a beautiful place for hours.

OK - so now hat I really wanted to say - it occurred to me after one of these meditations that I had never focused on myself. And you know what - I finally understand, after 43 years what it means to love yourself.