Oh boy NH, there's a significant weight of vet opinion here. And you are in the midst of it saying yes, but don't you think??

As I see it, the bottom line is you are choosing to remain in a M where your W gets to see, kiss and possibly have S with someone else.

Of course it's up to you what you do. But in my sitch it's a big thing I have learned. I lived like that once - before BD. I don't want to live like that again. Oh no, that's not how I want my life to be.

So, how do you want your life to be & what do you plan to do about it? Because I think if you do nothing, your L will carry on as it is.

Also, please don't worry about what your W thinks or if she blames you. If you choose to cheat and carry on cheating, there are implications, you know?

Do what a man with no fear and tons of self respect would do....

Take care - we are all here to help xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus